Tuesday, 22 January 2013

Real Mums wanted!

Bye-bye BFF Giuliana
I realised tonight that Giuliana and I have grown apart, and I am gutted.

With baby asleep in bed, I happily nestled into the couch with a glass of white in hand and pressed play on the first of several episodes of Giuliana & Bill I had cued and ready to watch. After watching Giuliana's heart wrenching and courageous journey to motherhood in previous seasons, she and Bill have finally welcomed baby Duke into the world. I couldn't wait to see how everything unfolded, and share many a knowing nod at their new-parent trials and joys. Furthermore, with my hubby away for work I get to enjoy back-to-backs without his endless commentary about Giuliana's ridiculous vocabulary or Bill's teeth. Bliss!

My excitement was short lived because, Giuliana, you lost me at: "Bill & I are just heading downstairs {in the Four Seasons} for a couples massage while {our baby nanny} Phyllis looks after {2 day old} Duke", and you had me totally shaking my head when you said to the lady giving your barely-worked hands a manicure: "Man, it's so tiring being a new Mum - I die... no wait, I gag... no wait, I yawn" (she does have a weird way with words now that I think about it). Then, had I not been so desperate keen to enjoy the one and only glass of wine I would have tonight, it would have no doubt been downed in one gulp when I saw she was out with her girlfriend for a 25-course-degustation with matching wines to discuss the hardships of motherhood.

I'm sure it's not all massages, champagne and frivolity for her, and I realise there's nothing very TV-worthy about a Mum that's about to change the sixth nappy for the day, before hanging the washing on the line and then picking up toys that have been scattered over the floor while singing nursery rhymes to a need-to-be-stimulated-now baby. But it's made me wonder, who are our mummy role models these days? It seems our lives (or possibly just mine) are filled with images of mummy celebs who are too posh to bath, dress, walk, entertain or spend any time with their child, or Mums with 18 children and counting, or teenage Mums with 4 children under the age of 5... hmmm, perhaps I do watch too much reality TV?!.

While you and I both know that parenthood is actually a unique combination of incredible joys and head scratching challenges, with lots of mundane but necessary things to do each day in order to keep our children thriving, I am a little worried that the unrealistic picture our limelight-hogging sisters portray feeds unhealthy expectations and adds pressure to those of us without cleaners, nannies or massage therapists.

I realised a long time ago that my "Mummy celebs" are actually my Mum, my sisters, my friends, my peers. Not the plastic fantastic ladies that entertain and frustrate me in equal measure. Maybe that's another reason why I wanted Latte Mum to exist, so that I could connect with you all and hear your wonderful, funny, inspiring, terrifying, uplifting, and very real pieces of mummyhood advice instead.

So, what did you do today? My TV is now off.

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